I am fortunate to have a few friends who I can really talk to. I call it “Real Talk” or “Real Shit”. Really stimulating and thought provoking talk.

One subject which I have thought on for many years to figure out where I stood was on the subject of abortion. Pro-Life or Pro-Choice?

I am not a quick to judge/fast to opinions type of person. If I don’t have the data to back up my opinion, I simply respond with “I am not sure how I feel about it” or “I haven’t made a choice yet on it” until I am able to think about it enough/do enough research to feel confident that my conviction lines up with the rest of my life, my beliefs and my core self.

I first learned/started caring about the pro-life vs. pro-choice movement in my early 20’s, when I started dating a woman who was nearly 10 years older than me, and who definitely wanted to have kids. She was ready, and I was definitely not. Fortunately I made the right decision at the time: to be careful and not have to put either of us in the position of having to choose.

Though the struggle was avoided in that instance, I still asked myself “what if I wasn’t so smart, we let our passion take control, and we were later stuck with the hard decision of having to choose between raising a kid when we barely know eachother, or she gets an abortion and ends a life?” I didn’t have an answer then, and for years I couldn’t answer people when they asked me what my opinion was, because I honestly hadn’t decided.

But, thinking about it this morning, it finally clicked for me. I have finally gotten to a place in my life, where I am starting to find my true self and my purpose for being here, that these kinds of questions are becoming clear. So here it is:​